Misunderstood [A Poem]

A poem about sharks:

With giant teeth and a sinister grin
They watch you sceptically
In deep blue waters; your body immersed
You glide so perfectly 

A killer they scream, blood thirsty and cruel,
Unqualified the labels they add,
When hunting is eating and eating is life,
The last thing you do is be bad 

Giving up the ghost

The following article is interesting, not only because it is well written and for that matter, well written by a pretty girl but it just underlines what it is that I hate about online dating. Before I tried, I was a hopeful sceptic but after many a night, I lost the hope. The thing is that you can never be completely sure of someone’s motivations. And it is very difficult to tell if someone is being genuine over phone call or text. You can meet someone and things seem great and the next moment they disappear. I had some ridiculous situations. So obviously when I hear stories I feel unsurprised. I even told my friend as much the other day who was excitedly telling me about this Italian man she met on one. He can’t meet her yet. He is currently in Italy and he calls himself an entrepreneur who is starting his own business. In what? Your guess is as good as mine. He also told her he wants to take her dancing as a first date. Is it me or is that too good to be true? Too suave? And that’s it. You never know with people these days and with the net.

Give me an old fashioned Hollywood romance any day!

Anna dates

After past experiences with online dating (one of which resulted in a short lived disaster of a relationship), 12 months ago I decided to give it up. Love would have to come to me, to seek me out and fall romantically and theatrically into my arms. That was the plan.

scarf12 months on, I re-download Tinder and Bumble.

A few idle swipes and attempts at riveting virtual conversation later and I find my self heading out on a date. A date with a man. I am nervous and out of practice, but how out of practice can you actually be at attempting to ‘be yourself’ for a couple of hours. He lives outside of London and so we decide to meet outside of Waterloo station and walk in the drizzle to Southbank for drinks.

Initial impressions are great and conversation is interesting, funny and flows well. Hoorah! We both seemingly…

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New Year: Blogging thoughts

I really think these words are of great value for anyone starting off blogging. I myself have only a small number of readers but I am happy any time I can connect with them. I’d personally have a small but interested blog follower group than just ones who like everything without reading. It’s not that I mind the likes, it’s just not my reason for blogging if that makes sense. But anyway, definitely read through this post. It’s immense!


I suspect that many people will be thinking of starting a blog as a new year project. There may also be many who might be considering giving up on blogging too. In the summer of this year, I will have been blogging for five years. My blog is just an average thing, something I do for my own pleasure and amusement. It does not attract daily views of 1,000+, and cannot boast a following approaching 500,000, like so many of the busy blogs out there. However, it is enough for me, and I have some thoughts and tips for anyone embarking on a blog in 2017.

Don’t blog just to make money. It rarely happens.

Don’t be attracted by SEO bloggers, or Spam bloggers promising to increase traffic on your site.

Write about things you are interested in, not what you think others will like.

Keep it personal, and only…

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If you could invite 5 famous people to a dinner party, who would they be and why?

Okay folks, I’m looking for some interaction here with my peeps so I hope you humour me here. The rules, well, I’m going to say that they have to alive. I know that takes away some really cool people BUT it also will help to narrow down things a bit. Please please please DO post your ideal guests too, I really want to read them. 

So! Who would I pick for my amazing dinner party and why?

1. Al Gore

Al Gore is a champion for climate change and probably one of the most unluckiest people never to be president of the United States. I believe, like Hilary Clinton, he also won the popular vote but as we know, that does make for a hill of beans in this world. Regardless, besides the fact that he made An Inconvenient Truth which is AMAZING by the way, he has been a staunch advocate of supporting the fight against climate change. Not only has he founded businesses for sustainable living, he has tirelessly worked on increasing awareness and I would just love to speak with him and learn more of his experiences. 

2. President Obama

Okay, it’s just a coincidence that I have selected two politicians but I have SERIOUS man love for Barack Obama. I love the eloquent nature in which he puts himself forward and how he handles himself. He is obviously an incredibly smart man. Someone who came from not much, not only has he been the leader of the free world for two terms but he has managed to remain a great family man with a wonderful wife and two emotionally balanced children. Plus, I can imagine him being able to level with me. I think he’d be an immensely entertaining guest. 

3. Professor Sabine Bahn

Sabine Bahn is someone who you may have never heard of but she actually a phenomenal woman. She is a Professor at the University of Cambridge and the Laboratory Head at the Cambridge Centre for Neuropsychiatric Research. Her work varies from computer modelling to her fascinating studies on molecular diagnostics for psychiatric disorders such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. As someone who is immensely interested in neuroscience, I would love to learn about her theories and studies and to hear her perspectives on the future of psychiatric diagnostics and treatment. 

4. Kim Kardashian

No no, hear me out. Literally, this would be like a case study. All I hear is that Kim is a smart business woman blah blah but I would be interested to know just how the mind works of a woman who marries a chipmunk (I mean Kanye West) and also gives birth to his children. I mean, come on….thinking you have a bit of Kanye West inside of you is terrifying. I figure I am most likely going to get what I expected from Kim but yet it would be interesting to see if the ditzy socialite woman you see on television is the same person when the cameras are off. 

5. Jennifer Lawrence

Okay, so this one is pretty much because I ❤️ Jennifer Lawrence. I’d say I’m sorry but I’m not sorry. She seems like a really fun and cute person. Her interviews always give me a good impression and she’s beautiful.  She has also been a strong advocate for equality especially in the acting business arguing that women should receive equal remuneration for their employment as men so she is not just a pretty face. My only reservation is that I’d be too shy to speak ha ha!

Who would YOU pick? Please let me know in the comments!

One hell of a little fighter

Hi everyone,

I hope all is well with you. I wanted to spend some time today sharing with you a story about a very special little man.



The little boy in the picture is called Bradley Lowey and he’s just 5 years old. Bradley suffers from a condition called neuroblastoma, which is a form of cancer. Neuroblastoma is a cancer of specialised nerve cells called neural crest cells. These cells are involved in the development of the nervous system and other tissues. Unfortunately, Bradley’s situation is terminal and he his parents have been provided with three options, which all have the same devastating outcome in the end. At this point, this young soldier is playing for time – not for a cure and such a tragic situation should never befall someone so small and innocent. It should never befall anyone in fact but you know…even I kicked it tomorrow, I could say I got 30+ years. Honestly, I have no words.

Bradley is a massive Sunderland Football Club Fan, a team in the North East of England. So imagine his delight when his parents receive a phone call from Sunderland football club asking him to be a mascot against Chelsea FC at the Stadium of Light in Sunderland. Little Bradley got a chance to meet all the Sunderland players, including Sunderland Captain Jermaine Defoe as well as all of the Chelsea team. It was a nice touch. And while, granted, there is nothing that anyone can do to ease the pain and suffering of Bradley and his family, it was good to see that these sports stars and their clubs who are often maligned for being flashy, arrogant and generally terrible people as human beings. Most importantly of all, it’s good to see that people are making every effort to ensure that this little boy gets all the special memories that he can because he’s a little fighter and it’s the least he deserves.

You can see the full video of his day here:


If you’re interested in finding out more if you have a few pennies to spare, do take the time to check out his website. https://bradleylowerysfight.org.uk

My heart goes out to his family, friends and most important of all, Bradley. I hope that you have a special Christmas together and have all the happiness in the world.



Do you think love at first sight is possible?

“This is going to sound crazy, but… from the moment I first set eyes on you I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you.” – Leigh Fallon, Carrier of the Mark

Have you ever seen someone or met someone and immediately felt like something magical was happening to you. Like a rush of feelings and emotions. I’m not talking about lust either. Sure, you can see someone pretty and be instantly attracted to them. That’s par for the course but can you fall in love?

 There are many reports about love at first sight. Carla Bruni said, for example, that it was love at first sight between her and the former French President Nicolas Sarkozy. She said that what happened “between Nicolas and me was not quick, it was instant.”

But a lot of people are quick to pour cold buckets of water over the notion that it can happen. 

Some people use the argument that love at first sites is never anything more than lust because you don’t really know the person and that you are assigning qualities to a person that may or may not be true. It’s like saying that because Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful and has a warm smile, she is probably a wonderful human being; I mean, I’m sure she is but it is just an assumption. 

The other argument is that you can’t fall in love with someone in a deep way without going through the process or doing things with someone. Like there are various steps that you have to undertake. 

You could argue that you are very perceptive though. A lot of people think they are. What if you could accurately figure out what a person is like? Surely that’s possible?

I think the argument that you can’t fall in love with someone without knowing someone is flawed in the sense that even if your perceptions of someone is right or wrong, the feeling of intense love can be there, whether it is or isn’t based on fact. The fact that love at first sight may perish after a while also does not imply that it was not an intense love. Time is not an exclusive, or even the major, measure of intense love. On the contrary, romantic intensity is likely to subside and even to disappear after a while.

Personally, I think it is possible. Love at first sight is not merely sexual attraction. It is an intense form of romantic love that has a good chance of developing into profound intense love, provided that the characteristics that are not seen at first sight are indeed similar to those the lover assumes, and that no external circumstances occur to terminate the relationship. Sure it might not be the deep profound love that you develop from being with someone for a long time, it cab nevertheless be extremely intense and powerful. 

The reason I even bring this up is because I wondered myself. It would be incredibly easy to view someone’s blog for example and feel immediately connected to someone in a way. Sure, if they have a gorgeous picture, that might help things but nevertheless, would it be possible?

What do you think?

Why oh why did “pussy” become a bad word?

Serious question here. Whatever happened to using words in a nice way? And no I’m not saying that THAT isn’t a nice thing but why do we have to use words that mean other things to describe it. 

When I was just a little kid, if someone said “pussy” to me, it would be said as a referral to pussycat. You know, I was that little boy walking down my street calling for my cats saying “HERE kitty kitty! Here puss puss!”

It’s weird don’t you think? And you know, with me now being older, it’s sad that the innocence is gone. And it’s not that I mind being more aware of sex and sexuality, it’s just that it was nicer when the word pussy just simply meant cat. Because now, whenever I hear someone say “aww look at that pussy”, it becomes all weird and I feel like I should say something because it’s not appropriate. But it’s only inappropriate because we made it inappropriate!!! Well damn it! I’m taking it back! And if I want my pussy, I’m not going to be embarrassed about saying it!

Oh and if you are interested, people on the continent have some other interesting turns of phrase for female genitalia. The Portuguese one sounds particularly fetching (either Portuguese men are pigs or Portuguese women have low self esteem). 

Words referring to cats are used as vulgar slang for female genitals in some other European languages as well. Examples include German Muschi (literally “house cat”), French chatte (“female cat”, also used to refer to sexual intercourse), and Dutch poes (“puss”). The Portuguese term rata (literally “female rat”)and Norwegian mus (“mouse”) are also animal terms used as vulgar slang for women’s genitals.

You fakers!!!!

Interesting little story from the Daily Mirror today. It’s about women who are vocal in bed and what it REALLY means. 

A recent study looked into how vocal women are during sex at Indiana University and what it means. 

“There isn’t a lot of research in this area,” said Kristen Mark, a sexuality researcher at Indiana University told CNN , “but we’re bombarded with images through mainstream media that tell us moaning is associated with orgasm and sexual pleasure.”

“So it would be a fairly wise faking strategy to moan since men already tend to associate moaning with orgasm.”

So what are we saying here? Are we saying that every loud orgasm is faked? Or is it possible for a loud vocalisation to actually represent pleasure?

In 2011, Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds published their research on the topic in Archives of Sexual Behavior

In the study, 71 sexually active heterosexual women aged between 18 and 48 were asked questions about making noise during sex. Many of the women had admitted to being vocal during sex but also admitted that is wasn’t an indication of pleasure. 
In fact, 66% of the women said that their loud vocalisations (known better as copulatory vocalisations) were to spur on their partner to climax and bring things to an end.  Interestingly, 87% future explained their motivation was to boost their partner’s self-esteem.

If this news wasn’t concerning enough for men, the study highlighted that the odds having a loud orgasm because of penetrative sex decrease.

In fact, the study came to the conclusion that “While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalisations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation.”  Furthermore, the participants of the study ADMITTED that they actually made noise to “RELIEVE BOREDOM” in addition to just being fatigued and/or experiencing pain or  discomfort. 

So I have to say to these lady participants, all those who said that you faked it to boost your partners’ confidence, let’s just hope they didn’t read this. 

It also makes we wonder about a girl I knew from University. She often used to come out of her room in the morning and apologise to us in case she was too loud. But if she was faking it, why didn’t she tone it down slightly? I mean, think of us who are trying to sleep damn it! NOT COOL! I guess it is also a sign that GENTLEMAN, MAKE SURE YOU GET INVOLVED IN FOREPLAY! Women have needs too and if you don’t help them out, then they may even stop faking it!!

You have been warned!

Does our movie collection define us?

So I was glancing through my movie collection today and I got to thinking about whether our movie collections are a fair reflection of who we are. I mean, isn’t that the reason why so many choose such high falooting films as their favourite??

Let’s be honest! Seriously! You know those moments when you are chatting with someone early on in a relationship of some kind and the discussion turns to movies and you ask “what is your favourite film?”  Well how often do you get someone saying something like White Chicks or something a little more mundane like Die Hard? The answer is NOT OFTEN. Why? Because nobody wants to admit that they aren’t higher functioning.  I can’t even count the number of times when I’ve asked a person what their favourite film is that they’ve come back with an answer such as Shawshank Redemption or The Theory of Everything. It’s important to look smart right? That and it would be rather less impressive than coming out with Resident Evil

It got me wondering whether some people genuinely don’t think those sorts of movies. But then that doesn’t make sense. If so many girls hated romantic comedies or if so many guys hated movies such as Piranha 3D, why do studios continue to churn them out? Methinks that the answer is that people just lie out of embarrassment. No one wants to be that person who likes corny, cheesy, or rude movies. 

I’m going to be honest. My movie taste is eclectic and rather odd at times. I somewhat embarrassingly admit that I do have a fair few movies that have “hot” people in them. You know, the sort of movie where you would see boobs here and there. That being said, none of the movies I own are filthy. So while my mind may go into the gutter every now and then, I do have some scruples. Plus there are some films I’ve purchased just out of intrigue. I purchased Spring Breakers for example because I was bewildered about why James Franco got such high praise for a seemingly titilating movie while I purchased Fifty Shades of Grey literally because I had read the book as part of a dare and I wanted to see whether the movie was as cheesy as the book. I would also confess that I also have slight things for Vanessa Hudgens and Dakota Johnson that added to my intrigue. 

I do own a lot of immature movies. By immature, I mean your typical young adult type of film such as the Hangover, Get Hard, numerous other Will Ferrell movies and I did also purchase Piranha 3D. What can I say, I like creature features!!!

I have a fair few blockbusters too as well as some more critically acclaimed ones such as The Godfather, A Beautiful Mind and Dr Strangelove but anything smarter can be easily balanced out by the stupid. 

So what does all this say about me? Maybe that I’m inquisitive, I’m red blooded, I can be serious at times but I’m also quite capable of being silly too. I guess you could say that it also says that while I enjoy the thoughtful and intelligent film, I also enjoy going to films for the big spectical and I’m not afraid of big booms, car chases and action. 

I think probably the biggest thing that would surprise people about my movie collection though, beyond the cruder variety of film is the romantic element. I own quite a few romantic comedies and dramas. Indeed, one element I liked about Fifty Shades of Grey was the rather ludicrous love story that developed. Yep, that’s right. I felt really bad for Anastasia Steele and I could empathise with falling for someone who had different ideas of what love and sex were and how hard that is. Maybe that sounds stupid but it did make sense.  I also like romantic movies with happy endings. There’s too much sadness in the world. Isn’t it nice when people find love at the end? Cheesy, sure! But I wouldn’t be sad to have that romantic ending!

Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that movie collections probably do say a lot about you and it’s a shame that people aren’t more open about films they like. While it’s quite embarrassing for me to admit (more than anything) that I bought movies like Fifty Shades of Grey or Springbreakers, I actually think that it isn’t as damning or incriminating as I worry it is. I also think it’s no harm for a person to admit they like movies like that or to say that their favourite movie is something cheesy or silly. It just shows you are human and probably makes you sound more relatable than someone who only gets their kicks out of a three hour Scorcese film that has “deep meanings that reflect society”. Honestly, half the time, I don’t leave a film thinking “okay, that was slow but the underlying messages were inspired”. I’m probably more likely to say “that movie was cool! It was so high paced and fast actioned. And that woman was really cute!” Sometimes, a stupid movie that makes you laugh out loud is far more rewarding than watching the Revenant, which is, despite being beautifully shot and reasonably acted, a rather boring movie with somewhat of an anti-climax. 

What are your thoughts?

I saw this stupid Tattoo so I found some more. 

Tattoos are a divisive thing. I find that most people either love them or hate them. I have none and personally I don’t think I ever could. I know that might make me boring but there just isn’t anything I can think of that I would feel comfortable marking on me. 

That being said, I concede that some tattoos can look decent, even good on the right person. I’m not saying I would necessarily jump for joy if I saw someone with a full sleeve but I also respect that there are different strokes for different folks and the odd one can actually look kinda cute. 

That being said, this one doesn’t. 

That’s right, some genius BRITISH man decided it would be cool to tattoo Donald Trump on his leg because “great art is controversial”.  Dave Singleton, the 38 year old roofer confessed that while it was controversial, it wasn’t as bad as having Hitler tattooed on you and that he’s “not a huge fan of Hillary Clinton” and that “she’s been part of the establishment for too long. Trump coming from the outside might make a difference.” Obviously putting in the ground work is still appreciated. 

In light of this “masterpiece”, I share with you some equally awe inspiring pieces of “art” in the form of tattoos. 

1. The Girl you bring home to meet your parents. 

2. Mr Anti-Establishment

3. The Man Who Loves PAC Man too much. 

4. Love for Africa 

5. Bon Jovi’s biggest fan.