Do you think love at first sight is possible?

“This is going to sound crazy, but… from the moment I first set eyes on you I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you.” – Leigh Fallon, Carrier of the Mark

Have you ever seen someone or met someone and immediately felt like something magical was happening to you. Like a rush of feelings and emotions. I’m not talking about lust either. Sure, you can see someone pretty and be instantly attracted to them. That’s par for the course but can you fall in love?

 There are many reports about love at first sight. Carla Bruni said, for example, that it was love at first sight between her and the former French President Nicolas Sarkozy. She said that what happened “between Nicolas and me was not quick, it was instant.”

But a lot of people are quick to pour cold buckets of water over the notion that it can happen. 

Some people use the argument that love at first sites is never anything more than lust because you don’t really know the person and that you are assigning qualities to a person that may or may not be true. It’s like saying that because Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful and has a warm smile, she is probably a wonderful human being; I mean, I’m sure she is but it is just an assumption. 

The other argument is that you can’t fall in love with someone in a deep way without going through the process or doing things with someone. Like there are various steps that you have to undertake. 

You could argue that you are very perceptive though. A lot of people think they are. What if you could accurately figure out what a person is like? Surely that’s possible?

I think the argument that you can’t fall in love with someone without knowing someone is flawed in the sense that even if your perceptions of someone is right or wrong, the feeling of intense love can be there, whether it is or isn’t based on fact. The fact that love at first sight may perish after a while also does not imply that it was not an intense love. Time is not an exclusive, or even the major, measure of intense love. On the contrary, romantic intensity is likely to subside and even to disappear after a while.

Personally, I think it is possible. Love at first sight is not merely sexual attraction. It is an intense form of romantic love that has a good chance of developing into profound intense love, provided that the characteristics that are not seen at first sight are indeed similar to those the lover assumes, and that no external circumstances occur to terminate the relationship. Sure it might not be the deep profound love that you develop from being with someone for a long time, it cab nevertheless be extremely intense and powerful. 

The reason I even bring this up is because I wondered myself. It would be incredibly easy to view someone’s blog for example and feel immediately connected to someone in a way. Sure, if they have a gorgeous picture, that might help things but nevertheless, would it be possible?

What do you think?

Why oh why did “pussy” become a bad word?

Serious question here. Whatever happened to using words in a nice way? And no I’m not saying that THAT isn’t a nice thing but why do we have to use words that mean other things to describe it. 

When I was just a little kid, if someone said “pussy” to me, it would be said as a referral to pussycat. You know, I was that little boy walking down my street calling for my cats saying “HERE kitty kitty! Here puss puss!”

It’s weird don’t you think? And you know, with me now being older, it’s sad that the innocence is gone. And it’s not that I mind being more aware of sex and sexuality, it’s just that it was nicer when the word pussy just simply meant cat. Because now, whenever I hear someone say “aww look at that pussy”, it becomes all weird and I feel like I should say something because it’s not appropriate. But it’s only inappropriate because we made it inappropriate!!! Well damn it! I’m taking it back! And if I want my pussy, I’m not going to be embarrassed about saying it!

Oh and if you are interested, people on the continent have some other interesting turns of phrase for female genitalia. The Portuguese one sounds particularly fetching (either Portuguese men are pigs or Portuguese women have low self esteem). 

Words referring to cats are used as vulgar slang for female genitals in some other European languages as well. Examples include German Muschi (literally “house cat”), French chatte (“female cat”, also used to refer to sexual intercourse), and Dutch poes (“puss”). The Portuguese term rata (literally “female rat”)and Norwegian mus (“mouse”) are also animal terms used as vulgar slang for women’s genitals.

Smoking – urgh!

I don’t wish to offend. Really, I don’t. But there’s something about smokers and smoking that horrifies me to my very core. 

So my Dad and I went out to collect a pizza for my mum and brother. Every Saturday, they have a ritual of having a pizza but sadly the place we were going to were not delivering!

We went out and ordered. That in itself was an experience. I swear, everyone behind the counter looked about 16 years old to me and I immediately felt incredibly old watching these kids do their stuff while all covered in acne with an air of nativity that is beaten out of you through life. 

Then on our way back, we got stuck outside a local pub and my eyes were drawn to these beautiful girls standing outside, wearing next to no clothing bearing the English winter. I’m talking a semi revealing top, a small jacket and short skirts paired with tights / stockings. And they were all puffing away to cigarettes. 

This is not one of the pretty girls I was referring to but it does illustrate my point.

And I didn’t get it. All these beautiful girls were in their peak and there they were enhaling a hand held exhaust pipe that would undoubtedly be etching time off their very existence. And I couldn’t understand why. Why would they be doing it to themselves? Maybe I’m in a minority. I mean, I don’t think I am but it isn’t an attractive quality. Smoking is toxic, it smells really bad and it is probably the main reason behind the premature deaths of many of my loved ones. And it’s not like th facts behind smoking are hidden. On th cartons it says “smoking kills”. People have seen smokers lung! It’s not a pretty sight. And you can see the effect it has on your health early on. I remember this guy from school, Andrew, who was coughing and spluttering as he would do laps at school and he himself would admit it’s because he smoked.  So am I missing something? Why does this practice still go on? Can someone please enlighten me?

Does our movie collection define us?

So I was glancing through my movie collection today and I got to thinking about whether our movie collections are a fair reflection of who we are. I mean, isn’t that the reason why so many choose such high falooting films as their favourite??

Let’s be honest! Seriously! You know those moments when you are chatting with someone early on in a relationship of some kind and the discussion turns to movies and you ask “what is your favourite film?”  Well how often do you get someone saying something like White Chicks or something a little more mundane like Die Hard? The answer is NOT OFTEN. Why? Because nobody wants to admit that they aren’t higher functioning.  I can’t even count the number of times when I’ve asked a person what their favourite film is that they’ve come back with an answer such as Shawshank Redemption or The Theory of Everything. It’s important to look smart right? That and it would be rather less impressive than coming out with Resident Evil

It got me wondering whether some people genuinely don’t think those sorts of movies. But then that doesn’t make sense. If so many girls hated romantic comedies or if so many guys hated movies such as Piranha 3D, why do studios continue to churn them out? Methinks that the answer is that people just lie out of embarrassment. No one wants to be that person who likes corny, cheesy, or rude movies. 

I’m going to be honest. My movie taste is eclectic and rather odd at times. I somewhat embarrassingly admit that I do have a fair few movies that have “hot” people in them. You know, the sort of movie where you would see boobs here and there. That being said, none of the movies I own are filthy. So while my mind may go into the gutter every now and then, I do have some scruples. Plus there are some films I’ve purchased just out of intrigue. I purchased Spring Breakers for example because I was bewildered about why James Franco got such high praise for a seemingly titilating movie while I purchased Fifty Shades of Grey literally because I had read the book as part of a dare and I wanted to see whether the movie was as cheesy as the book. I would also confess that I also have slight things for Vanessa Hudgens and Dakota Johnson that added to my intrigue. 

I do own a lot of immature movies. By immature, I mean your typical young adult type of film such as the Hangover, Get Hard, numerous other Will Ferrell movies and I did also purchase Piranha 3D. What can I say, I like creature features!!!

I have a fair few blockbusters too as well as some more critically acclaimed ones such as The Godfather, A Beautiful Mind and Dr Strangelove but anything smarter can be easily balanced out by the stupid. 

So what does all this say about me? Maybe that I’m inquisitive, I’m red blooded, I can be serious at times but I’m also quite capable of being silly too. I guess you could say that it also says that while I enjoy the thoughtful and intelligent film, I also enjoy going to films for the big spectical and I’m not afraid of big booms, car chases and action. 

I think probably the biggest thing that would surprise people about my movie collection though, beyond the cruder variety of film is the romantic element. I own quite a few romantic comedies and dramas. Indeed, one element I liked about Fifty Shades of Grey was the rather ludicrous love story that developed. Yep, that’s right. I felt really bad for Anastasia Steele and I could empathise with falling for someone who had different ideas of what love and sex were and how hard that is. Maybe that sounds stupid but it did make sense.  I also like romantic movies with happy endings. There’s too much sadness in the world. Isn’t it nice when people find love at the end? Cheesy, sure! But I wouldn’t be sad to have that romantic ending!

Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that movie collections probably do say a lot about you and it’s a shame that people aren’t more open about films they like. While it’s quite embarrassing for me to admit (more than anything) that I bought movies like Fifty Shades of Grey or Springbreakers, I actually think that it isn’t as damning or incriminating as I worry it is. I also think it’s no harm for a person to admit they like movies like that or to say that their favourite movie is something cheesy or silly. It just shows you are human and probably makes you sound more relatable than someone who only gets their kicks out of a three hour Scorcese film that has “deep meanings that reflect society”. Honestly, half the time, I don’t leave a film thinking “okay, that was slow but the underlying messages were inspired”. I’m probably more likely to say “that movie was cool! It was so high paced and fast actioned. And that woman was really cute!” Sometimes, a stupid movie that makes you laugh out loud is far more rewarding than watching the Revenant, which is, despite being beautifully shot and reasonably acted, a rather boring movie with somewhat of an anti-climax. 

What are your thoughts?

Rhinos and their horns

I wanted to talk about something that is close to my heart. I wanted to talk about rhinos and the ridiculous and cruel rhino horn trade. 

Let’s be clear about something. 

Rhino horns are similar in structure to horses’ hooves, turtle beaks, and cockatoo bills. They are made of keratin – basically the same stuff that’s in your hair and fingernails. Yet, despite their being no empirical evidence to suggest otherwise, certain cultures, such as is in China with traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), it is regarded as something of a magical elixir. But the reality is that it is no better for you than chewing on your fingernails. 

 There are also those that just find it looks nice on the mantlepiece.

But what are the facts?

There are five species of rhinoceros and, with the exception of one subspecies of African white rhino, all are in danger of being hunted to extinction for their horns. Furthermore,  the scarcity of rhinos today and the corresponding intermittent availability of rhino horn only drives the price higher, and intensifies the pressure on the declining rhino populations. For people whose annual income is often far below the subsistence level, the opportunity to change one’s life by killing an animal that they don’t value is overwhelming.
Poachers will directly respond to demand. And now they are now being supplied by international criminal gangs with sophisticated equipment to track and kill rhinos. Often they use a tranquiliser gun to bring the rhino down and hack of its horn leaving the rhino to wake up and bleed to death very painfully and slowly. Let me reiterate. These poachers cause these beautiful animals to die PAINFULLY AND SLOWLY. Poachers are also often armed with guns making them very dangerous for the anti-poaching teams who put their lives on the line to protect rhinos.


I’m scared that one day, if I ever have kids (which I would willingly but you know – I kinda need a wife for that), I will have to tell them about rhinos through a picture book because they will no longer be around to see. And for what? It’s tragic that these amazing creatures are dying over a myth that the rhino horn has some therapeutic benefit. And if you have any doubts about how cruel this trade is, a google image search will highlight the cruel reality. 

So what can you do?

A good place to start is Save the Rhino ( which is an organisation that looks to act before it is too late. You should also report any suspicious activity to the authorities, if you suspect someone is selling/buying rhino horn products.  

Do what you can!

Where has the weekend gone?? A roundup. 

So it’s Sunday night here in the United Kingdom and I for one can’t understand where the weekend has gone? Any idea people?

Anyway, it’s back to work tomorrow and it’s a full week ahead. I’m probably going to start early tomorrow too as there is no way I am working till 7pm every night. I mean, that’s literally like spending the whole day working. And it’s pasta night tomorrow so that’s good – even though I have moved to lactofree cheese which I have to say has somewhat of an aftertaste (side note, this was a decision based in my body’s metabolism of lactose and I’m not just on a health trip). Still a fatty though which is a hit with the ladies (NOT). Actually a weighed in at 20 stone the other day which was MORTIFYING. I hate these tablets I’m on. I was warned they could put some heavy weight on but this is ridiculous. I have to change them because otherwise I’m going to end up single for the rest of my life. 

But yes, the weekend has gone and I feel like it was a rather administrative. Ordered some things for Christmas. Spent time organising things. I didn’t even get the chance to watch the Apprentice or Twin Peaks. 

I’m hoping to connect with people more on WordPress. I don’t know whether the best way to do that is by using Twitter or something but there are a lot of interesting people out there and I want to get to know you all. I’ve read some really great blogs too. And if you haven’t heard about Choppy and Scooner yet, then you really must. Anyway, like I said I’ve really got the urge to get to know more of you. Some really funny stuff out there and some really cool people too. Hell, there are some very good looking folk who blog on here but you all have boyfriends ha! Such is life right? But hey, I really want you to get in touch. 

And by the way, isn’t it funny how many people favourite blogs that they don’t even read. I reckon loads do. I just find that weird. If I favourite something, it’s because I’ve read it and liked it. It’s a shame because as much as I like your “likes”, I’d love to interact with you.  Honestly, I’m not a bad guy Haha. 

And now for a moment of zen. 

Denying the undeniable

One thing that has baffled me for quite some time is some people’s inability to grasp or accept the fact that we are damaging our planet. Even President Elect Donald Trump has said on multiple ocassions that climate change is nothing but a hoax which is done for the benefit of China. I’m sorry Mr Trump but the facts are irrefutable. Climate change is happening and it is something that we all need to be conscious of. 

That’s not to say I can’t understand his gripe. He’s a business man and not just an idiot like my former chemistry teacher who proudly stated that global warming was nothing more than a circular thing that was unrelated to anything we’re doing. Trump is looking at it from a business standpoint. China has the world’s largest carbon dioxide emissions which are nearly double that of the United States. But the reasons why China’s products are so cheap are not because they emit large amounts of carbon dioxide. As a country, China’s workforce have no guarantee of worker’s rights as highlighted by the International Trade Union confederation scoring a 5. Countries with the rating 5 are the worst countries in the world to work in. And while legislation may state that workers have rights, they actually have no access to them and are therefore exposed to autocratic regimes or unfair working conditions. Remember that poor woman who was basically topless selling jewellery that I posted earlier? Well that’s the sort of rights workers have. Workers are also paid very low salaries. In fact, minimum wage in China is lower than the Republic of Congo. Employees also often work long hours and poor working conditions. So employers in China can already undercut costs unless Mr Trump wants to lower worker rights. China also has a large amount of raw materials that it can use to its advantage. China have also agreed to the Paris agreement and they are now too dedicated to lowering emissions. So that argument really doesn’t stack up. 

Let me be clear about something, global warming and climate change is a significant problem that is going to affect our lives as well as the lives of our children. I want children someday and I don’t want them to have to live in a world destroyed by ignorance and nativity. 

And the evidence behind climate change is staggering. We are talking evidence that was compiled by some of the smartest minds on the planet including NASA who put a man on the moon. 

Sea level rise

Global sea level rose about 17 centimeters (6.7 inches) in the last century. The rate in the last decade, however, is nearly double that of the last century. 

Global temperature rise

All three major global surface temperature reconstructions show that Earth has warmed since 1880

All three major global surface temperature reconstructions show that Earth has warmed since 1880. Most of this warming has occurred since the 1970s, with the 20 warmest years having occurred since 1981 and with all 10 of the warmest years occurring in the past 12 years. Even though the 2000s witnessed a solar output decline resulting in an unusually deep solar minimum in 2007-2009, surface temperatures continue to increase.

Warming oceans

The oceans have absorbed much of this increased heat, with the top 700 meters (about 2,300 feet) of ocean showing warming of 0.302 degrees Fahrenheit since 1969

Shrinking ice sheets

The Greenland and Antarctic ice sheets have decreased in mass

The Greenland and Antarctic ice sheets have decreased in mass. Data from NASA’s Gravity Recovery and Climate Experiment show Greenland lost 150 to 250 cubic kilometers (36 to 60 cubic miles) of ice per year between 2002 and 2006, while Antarctica lost about 152 cubic kilometers (36 cubic miles) of ice between 2002 and 2005.

Declining Arctic sea ice

Both the extent and thickness of Arctic sea ice has declined rapidly over the last several decades

Glacial retreat

Glaciers are retreating almost everywhere around the world; including in the Alps, Himalayas, Andes, Rockies, Alaska and Africa.

Extreme events

The number of record high temperature events in the United States has been increasing, while the number of record low temperature events has been decreasing, since 1950. The U.S. has also witnessed increasing numbers of intense rainfall events.

Ocean acidification

Since the beginning of the Industrial Revolution, the acidity of surface ocean waters has increased by about 30 percent

Since the beginning of the Industrial Revolution, the acidity of surface ocean waters has increased by about 30 percent.This increase is the result of humans emitting more carbon dioxide into the atmosphere and hence more being absorbed into the oceans. The amount of carbon dioxide absorbed by the upper layer of the oceans is increasing by about 2 billion tons per year.

Deceased snow cover 

Satellite observations reveal that the amount of spring snow cover in the Northern Hemisphere has decreased over the past five decades and that the snow is melting earlier.

So what?

The effects of climate change are great. Indeed, they would too much to cover in just one post and I direct you to this excellent page from NASA

Needless to say the results would be devasting. And for those that think it is unreal, I challenge you to find out from your local government what their thoughts are. For example, in the United Kingdom, parts of the country are designated as high risk flooding zones that would be deemed unsalvagable if waters rise. I kid you not. 

Climate change will also lead to many speces extinction both on land and in the sea alike. Coral bleaching destroys habitats. Flooding would too. New temperatures would decimate local wildlife and could see the spread of diseases such as malaria and Zika virus. And animals found in the arctic and Antarctic would cease to be. I don’t want my children to only be able to look at pictures of these animals that once were. I don’t want to lose the beautiful wildlife that our countries have. We need to do more. It must happen. 

As a final note, I give you 30 Seconds to Mars

Electric Dreams (1984) – Movie Review

Way before Spike Jonze’s “Her” came a movie called “Electric Dreams”. Actually, this was way before people freely explored the internet and before people thought that computers were cool. 

Electric Dreams is a 1984 American-British science fiction romantic comedy-drama film set in San Francisco, California, that depicts a love triangle between a man, a woman and a computer. It stars Lenny Von Dohlen (Twin Peaks), Virginia Madsen (Sideways and Candyman), Maxwell Caulfield (Grease 2), and the voice of Bud Cort (Braindead) and was directed by Steve Barron, who also directed Mike Bassett – England Manager. It also has the honour of being the first film released by the Virgin Films production company. It’s designed in your typical cheesy 80s fashion but don’t let that fool you. This film is all kinds of funky. 

Miles Harding is an architect who envisions a brick shaped like a jigsaw puzzle piece that could enable buildings to withstand earthquakes. Seeking a way to get organized, he buys a personal computer to help him develop his ideas. Although he is initially unsure that he will even be able to correctly operate the computer, he does what every good technology geek does and buys numerous extra gadgets that were not necessary for his work, such as switches to control household appliances like the blender, a speech synthesizer, and a microphone. When Miles attempts to download the entire database from a mainframe computer at work, his computer begins to overheat. In a state of panic, Miles uses a nearby bottle of champagne to douse the overheating machine, which then becomes sentient.

If a sentient computer wasn’t enough to set your appetite, as mentioned earlier on, a love triangle soon ensues between Miles, his computer (who later identifies himself as “Edgar”), and Miles’ neighbor, an attractive cellist named Madeline. That’s right! 

Obviously all hell breaks loose and the movie comes to one hell of a climax. 

The movie scores a 6.5 from IMDB which is possibly a little bit unfair but don’t let that put you off. It actually is a pretty cool film. I mean,  look at this way. This was way before computers had gained such a big foothold in every day life. The idea of having a computer that could control your home with a few clicks was something of crazy science fiction times yet look where we are today with things like Apple’s HomeKit. The idea that people could converse or ask computers question too seemed the stuff of fantasy yet today we have Siri or Cortana. I’m not saying that your latest phone or Xbox is going to get the hots for your next door neighbor. Personally, I’d be pissed if mine did because I really don’t need anymore competition as I’m already struggling but I still think it’s quite funky to see people’s ideas of computing and how far we have come in the 32 years since. 

The film also boasts a pretty kick arse soundtrack which no doubt was influenced by Richard Branson’s influence (He is the owner of Virgin).  The soundtrack features music from prominent popular musicians of the time, being among the movies of this generation that actively explored the commercial link between a movie and its soundtrack. 

The main song of the movie was called “Together in Electric Dreams”. If you like 80s music, you really should check it out (It’s by Philip Oakey and Giorgio Moroder). Here it is!

Remember. We’ll always be together. However far it seems! We’ll always be together. Together in Electric Dreams. 

Do you ever find…

Whenever I start writing something here, I am always writing off the top of my head. More often than not, very little planning goes into it. I find it funny reading stuff back because I think it gives quite an interesting insight into how ideas form in my head. I know when I’m writing, I want to sound smart so I add all these pointless words in here and there when really it would probably make better reading by just being straightforward. It’s definitely not very “authory” of me. I should plan!

I think one of the big problems of constructing sentences when you are basically writing what you think is that you are often not sure how the sentence is going to end when you are putting it down in front of you. Obviously, if you proof it as you go along, you can change it but damn it, when I write, I write like I’m a German speaking English more than an Oxforf Professor. And I’m not even German!

How do you write your blogs? Do you plan out stories and posts? Do you write them in word before you post them? Let me know how you roll!

Ivanka Trump and the weird thing with her father

I don’t know if many agree with me (I’d be surprised if they didn’t) but Ivanka Trump is a beautiful woman. 

She is also a successful woman. She attended Georgetown University for two years, then transferred to the Wharton Business School at the University of Pennsylvania, from which she graduated cum laude with a bachelor’s degree in economics in 2004. She has since had a successful career in business, modelled, opened her own fashion line (although she supposedly used rabbit skins in her fashion and I am vehemently against this) and authored a book. She speaks, in addition to English, French fluently and also has an elementary knowledge of Czech. So, she is quite an impressive woman. 

But her own father, Presidential nominee Donald Trump seems quite keen to talk more about her looks. And while I am sure there are many fathers who are proud to shout to the rooftops that they think their daughter’s are beautiful, I would imagine less would be so keen for them to be referred to as a “piece of ass”. 

For the life of me, I can’t get over the clip above. If I was on a show, television or radio, and somebody called my daughter a “piece of ass”, I’d be furious. How dare you speak about my daughter that way? And even if you think it, why on earth would you say that to HER FATHER? Yet, Mr Trump seems quite relaxed about talking about his daughter in such a way. He even has gone as far as to talk about how “voluptuous” she is. Creepy much?

Regardless of whether you are one of those men who needs to have that banter in your life or not, there are things you just don’t do. And one is to objectify or sexualise your family. It’s down right creepy. So for Donald Trump to say that “if he was younger” and “if he was not her father”, it’s just wrong. Plain wrong. Be proud that your daughter is beautiful. Be proud that your daughter is also intelligent too. Be proud she is a good mother. But for the love of God, do not objectify her. 

I guess Ivanka is supporting her father in this election because he is just that – her father. How she can say that he respects women though is another thing. Personally, if you had any doubt about how he views women, just watch the videos of him talking about “disgusting” Rosie O’Donnell. Does that sound like a man who respects women for anything more than their looks?