“This is going to sound crazy, but… from the moment I first set eyes on you I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you.” – Leigh Fallon, Carrier of the Mark
Have you ever seen someone or met someone and immediately felt like something magical was happening to you. Like a rush of feelings and emotions. I’m not talking about lust either. Sure, you can see someone pretty and be instantly attracted to them. That’s par for the course but can you fall in love?
There are many reports about love at first sight. Carla Bruni said, for example, that it was love at first sight between her and the former French President Nicolas Sarkozy. She said that what happened “between Nicolas and me was not quick, it was instant.”
But a lot of people are quick to pour cold buckets of water over the notion that it can happen.
Some people use the argument that love at first sites is never anything more than lust because you don’t really know the person and that you are assigning qualities to a person that may or may not be true. It’s like saying that because Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful and has a warm smile, she is probably a wonderful human being; I mean, I’m sure she is but it is just an assumption.
The other argument is that you can’t fall in love with someone in a deep way without going through the process or doing things with someone. Like there are various steps that you have to undertake.
You could argue that you are very perceptive though. A lot of people think they are. What if you could accurately figure out what a person is like? Surely that’s possible?
I think the argument that you can’t fall in love with someone without knowing someone is flawed in the sense that even if your perceptions of someone is right or wrong, the feeling of intense love can be there, whether it is or isn’t based on fact. The fact that love at first sight may perish after a while also does not imply that it was not an intense love. Time is not an exclusive, or even the major, measure of intense love. On the contrary, romantic intensity is likely to subside and even to disappear after a while.
Personally, I think it is possible. Love at first sight is not merely sexual attraction. It is an intense form of romantic love that has a good chance of developing into profound intense love, provided that the characteristics that are not seen at first sight are indeed similar to those the lover assumes, and that no external circumstances occur to terminate the relationship. Sure it might not be the deep profound love that you develop from being with someone for a long time, it cab nevertheless be extremely intense and powerful.
The reason I even bring this up is because I wondered myself. It would be incredibly easy to view someone’s blog for example and feel immediately connected to someone in a way. Sure, if they have a gorgeous picture, that might help things but nevertheless, would it be possible?
What do you think?
Loved it! Also read your other posts, and found them hilarious. Definitely following you 👍
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Awesome. Glad you like it and welcome aboard. 🙃
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Love at first blog. Love it! If it’s true then you have another wanton woman reading.
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Another woman? I never even knew I had one!
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Well, how would I know!
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I suppose you can only speak for yourself!
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I definitely believe in love at first sight – but I don’t think it’s necessary. I mean, I’m married to someone I knew for a decade before we even started dating!
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I agree. I don’t think it’s a necessity. I believe that sometimes you can’t see what’s right in front of you. At the end of the day, all that really matters is that you find that special someone.
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Great read! I wrote something similar about this and described it as a lightening bolt moment, which is how you describe that rush of emotions when you first set eyes on someone. I’ve heard so many tales of people locking eyes with someone for the first time and knowing they were the person they would marry/fall in love with. I think it’s a brilliant, warming thought!
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Thank you for your thoughts! I am somewhat of a romantic so there’s the side of me that very much wants to believe that there is that love at first sight thing, even if many people disagree with it. I mean, I get that it is likely to be more lust than love in some cases but I’ve had situations where the moment you have that first conversation with someone, you’re just totally digging that person. It’s a really good feeling. I’d love to have some rollercoaster romantic marriage (that lasted).
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I couldn’t agree more! i think if you have an open mind to it i dont see why that couldn’t happen 🙂
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That’s what I hope. But the sceptic in me wonders if it’s just me being a silly heart!
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I feel love at first sight is a stretch. Because I agree to really reach a real level of love you need to go through things. Attraction of course, connection I think can be more instant. Great post!
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